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ceparana,
I don't have any words of wisdom...I gave my daughter up 18 years ago & she recently found me!!! We have not met. I have a 13 year old son & I told him when he was 10! I am lucky enough to have a picture of her when she was 7 months old & it has been displayed for as long as he can remember....as he grew up he constantly would ask me who the baby in the picture was & I would say I will tell you when you are older...then I just told him...I started out by telling him that when we are young we do irresponsible things & that there are times when the irresponsible things need to be "fixed" so I told him & he was fine with it...he was just as excited as I was when I received the email from her for the first time...she now emails him & she the first thing she asked him was did he know about her before or after she found his mom....she was thrilled to know that it was along time before!!!! It will work out but hiding it will only hurt your children....tell them...& if they don't understand tell them they will when they have children....I go to church with a woman who is an adoptee & she told me she NEVER understood what happened until the day she had her son & then she knew how much her birthmom loved her!!! P.S. I know what you mean about the words....my daughter told me she had a great life & she thanked me for that...she is going to be a freshman in college this coming fall!!! But my happiest day was the "Happy Mother's Day" message I received from her...that was all it said but trust me it was MORE than enough!!!!!
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