[dreamangel]

RobinKay, it is so good to hear your son is with you and I wish you the best and your family the best!

My husband and I have severe fertility issues and my husband was born with cystic fibrosis. This is something we have no control over. Does this mean we should never be parents....absoutely not, it just means we need to take a different route and if adopting a child is what we need to do then so be it. I will never apologize for having the love and desire to be a parent, never. This is why I am in it. I am being honest when I say that. Not all of us are bad and all we are guilty of is falling in love with these kids that we are protecting and hoping that someday if it is to be, we can adopt and finally be the family we were meant to be.

This foster family, in their defense, loved this child. Regardless of how they may have treated you, they loved him no matter what and as far as they knew there were no relatives willing to take him. Then to find out that there is a family member is the most horrible day of a foster parents life. Even though the most of us know it is for the best, and we will comply, doesn't make it easier to give this child up. This was probably the way this family could deal with loosing him.

While the system is for the birthfamily and so on, I think everyone needs to look at the hearts of foster-adopt families and cut um some slack.