[nikkianni]

Ah family, ain't it grand?
I agree with Brandy and with every else too. First, he may not have meant it "in that way." I know that when DD's birth certificate came in the mail, I made a giant entry in my journal that said only: Evangelina X XXXX! It's official!
And I certainly didn't mean she'd been less a member of the family before that.
However, I think it's important to have the adoption talk now and avoid having your daughter go through something like Brandy did later on down the line. I know I've gently and in one case not so gently reminded family members that I am DD's mom, that it's birthparents, etc.
Heck, DH's rich old uncle wrote us out of the will when he found out we were adopting. So every family tree definitely has some nuts. Or would that be crab apples?