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RobinKay- I am happy for your family being able to give him a home within his birth family.

Being a foster adopt parent myself, I couldn't imagine the family who did the things that you mention. We knew when we started this process of our lives that we were just a loving stable home until all other avenues are exhausted and then we are the forever home. Knowing that still does not keep me from attaching myself and loving the child like my own. But it does stop me from fighting the processes that need to take place before all is said and done.
We had a little boy with us from birth (he stayed for over eight months) and then moved to his aunt's house. She had never visited him at all (I found out later that she had called and called but CPS was slow about setting visitations.) It was very difficult to see him go and I did cry quite a bit...but I knew in my heart that I had my place in his life and it was just for those eight months until all paperwork and processes had been complete.

On defense of the foster parents though, we had been only a few weeks before that this little boy had a very good chance of being adopted by us. So we were preparing our hearts for that. And were very shocked when we learned that he would be leaving ....so some times...foster parents get wrong or lacking information because of many reasons and the family members are giving incorrect information and then before you know it ...hearts are involved, mouthes are moving at high rate of speed, and many people in between get hurt.

So, I pray for all those family members wanting their relatives back and also all the foster to adopt parents that are waiting for their homes and arms to be filled...it is a long hard roller coaster ride of emotions.