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Originally Posted by Becki_in_IN
Let your anger go. Infertility is a heartbreaking thing. Yes, these people didn't handle ths right, but at least they loved your son. I'm glad that he was able to be placed with someone in his birthfamily.
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you are right, Becky. I have made progress with my anger and resentment through counseling and prayer. Reading on this site has been very healing.
I just still break out in cold sweats when I think how we almost lost him. I have a hard time with the fact that they put themselves first, not the child, and then tried to portray themselves at this caring, selfless couple rescuing this child from the horrible birth family. The court documents show how they tried to influence the process, stating their opinion that he did not know us--that is in offcial documents. Then their supervisor said they did not know about us, that is why they got so attached. Hello, can't have it both ways, claiming child did not know us and also claim they did not know about us and the ICPC.
There was no excuse for what they did and how they treated us--none. They wanted a child and picked this one. We received no apology from anyone, just the excuse "we fell in love with him".
We could not get the adoption done fast enough just so we could walk away from everyone--social services and the foster family and the licensing agency. We were sympathetic to the fparents--tried to keep in contact--they still prompted him to call them mom and dad in phone calls! The limited contact was so inappropriate we just cut it off completely after 4 months.
I am trying, Becky, I really am. It scares me to know this is happening everywhere, to so many children, especially when it's an ICPC. An ICPC takes forever!!
thank you so much for listening