[fisbaby]

I'm really sorry that your feelings were hurt. I think though that maybe he wasn't trying to hurt your feelings on this one. I know that even after my DS's finalization we said oh now you're "officially" a "F".... not that he wasn't before but it was so nice to have it in writing on that piece of paper, ya know? I would say he was just trying to be excited for your family that it would all be official and have the legal stuff done with soon.

That being said, I know how easily I get my feelings hurt too. I hate that my family is ALWAYs going on and on about my niece and how she's all "n" b/c she looks like them. I have made comments too but it's just overkill. The last time I even said well I think it must not be in the blood line b/c my DS has our temperment .. just to try to make a point! Then my MIL and FIL are ALWAYs saying have you heard from his "mom" lately? I really want to correct them and feel comfortable with others but I'm so afraid they'll be mad about it. My DH says to do it or they'll never learn and I don't want them referring to her in that term when my DS is old enough to understand. If my sister or friend or anyone else says it I always reply "his birthmother is ...." or whatever so they get the point!