[Stormster]

I just want to say that I am super sensitive about anyone saying or doing ANYTHING that might be derogatory to adoption and/or DS but I do agree with Blessed that "not everyone is living adoption every day". i was p.o'd that my brother only met E twice so was super sensitive when he told me he looks "very midwestern" which in NY Jewish circles can mean nothing other than "gentile".

it was just an unnecessary reference to the fact that he's not dark like DH and I and not Jewish looking like my side of the family. Because HE said it after not visiting it took on new meaning. Felt like a rejection of him somehow.

But at the end of the day you know what? He was so affectionate and adorable with him, so admired his physical abilities, was just loving loving loving ...it just didn't matter. Anyway, I do know what you mean but there are some people who just let us down sometimes so everything they say is scrutinized differently KWIM? Also, I"m trying not to be sooooo protective of the little guy's feelings now. He doesn't even understand any of the things that offend me!

Hopefully by the time he does understand our family and friends will have learned a thing or two, particularly about our OA which clearly freaks them out but I'll cross that bridge when I come to it!