[Sniffles]

There really is not a way to tell them. Luckily for me, Big C had other family members that he went and spent time with. I had no idea where his dad was most of the time. As he got older he started to realize things about his dad on his own. Especially after his great-grandma died. She was the only on in that family who ever really cared about him and took the time to see him, so her death hit him really hard, then afterwards none of his family spoke to him for months. His behaviour went downhill and something needed to be done. That is when my husband and I decided to confront C's dad and tell him something has to change. It was decided that C can go and live with him to finish out school. It was the best decision we ever made for C. He is doing 10 times better. Plus he is spending some much needed time with his dad. However, I have realized that it is not a good thing for Little C. She is missing her bubba terribly. In fact tonight, she was crying histerically for him and nothing I did could make her calm down. So I told her to go and get her "bubba bear" (it is the one bubba gave to her) and I will go and get her something special. I went and got an old picture of him and gave it to her. I told her to hug her bubba bear and the picture to help her be closer to Bubba when he is not here. It worked. She went strait to bed with both and fell right asleep.

I know that what we did with my son can not help you in your situation, but maybe the idea I used for Little C could help. Does she have a special toy that he gave her? Give her an old picture of him and let her hug that special toy. It is hard to watch them get upset and there is nothing you can do about it. I also like q's mom's idea of just not telling them. I have used that one before with Big C. It does work. You do not have to say anything, actions do speak louder than words and Kelcee will realize that when she is older.