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Originally Posted by ALS2007
Hey everyone...
I'm a 26-year old guy and I first met my birth mother this past summer. It's been an astonishing, positive, and amazing journey and we're already close friends with a lot of laughter and open communication. Good stuff...
But, sometimes, and I could just be imagining things, it feels like our interactions "cross a boundary" in some way. Not like flirting, but a similar undertone I recognize from dating. This will sound weird, and please don't judge, but it's literally like the sexual chemistry I used to feel toward girls I knew I was going home with (and it's very confusing in the context of my birth mother, understandably).
I'm trying to take an open-minded approach toward this, as basically the entire reunion process was also confusing. Anyone have any thoughts toward this? Am I imagining things?
Also, I'm a normal and well-liked guy in the rest of life, so this potential GSA confusion isn't the product of some drastically alternative lifestyle or anything, haha.
Thanks everyone for reading...
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If you do reading on this it says adults give love sexually when meeting. With birth mothers and birth fathers it is sometimes the younger version of the other parent they see in the adoptee. If there was love between parents some part of their mind sees this as another chance.
It shouldn't happen, but it sometimes does that mother and son, or father and daughter become sexual.
It can destroy a reunion entirely, guilt, shame, fear of someone finding out.
If any one feels this, it is best to find adoption counseling . Or check out adoption books, a few of them give information on this and how to keep it from happening.
good luck, take care of yourself