I'm not sure you shouldn't tell them off... Actually, I think you should post this on the General Adoptive Parents support board. Lots of folks there that have dealt with this. Lots of first moms will respond as well.
I think you're a great amom... and you don't deserve this at all. I am not in an OA (so take this for what it's worth) but I think a bad relationship will be harder on your son than no relationship at all. I have confidence that you will protect him from what you can... I wonder what his bparents will say to him as he grows older tho if the whole "I am his mother" and "you owe me" attitudes keep up...
Cross post this... You need to get some boundaries in place and you will probably get some good advice. Personally, I'm lousy at boundaries LOL
Btw: I laughed at the Cymbalta comment - hehehe - Sorry
