Help!
I hope this is the right place for me to post. I don't wish to offend anybody or hurt any feeling, but I need some first moms help.
My DH and I adopted his grandchild in '07. It was not something we planned to do. His parents had him for 8 weeks, but couldn't and wouldn't commit to rasing him. They are young, but not that young. We offered for them to live with us together or seprately (sp?) and raise him. We were turned down. Another family member was going to adopt him, but because of Indian nation rights, it had to be a blood relative. We were the only ones able to do the adoption.
We have seen them 4 times this year. The visits usually run about 1 1/2 hours. We agreed that we would do visits 2-3 times a year with quarterly updates. I have honored that and more. Now, I have gotten some really nasty emails telling me that SHE is his mother and I never will be. She also told me to watch my back. What does that mean? I feel like I am the bad guy for adopting this child they didn't want to raise and now I have to pay.
Now for my real dilemma~They are expecting again. She is 17 and he is 19. Neither have a job. They want us to give them money so they can move into an apartment and he can go to school and work part-time while she stays home. Am I a witch for saying no? I do feel an obligation to my step-son, but I feel like we have done enough! Why can't he work 2 jobs and she work until she can't anymore? I feel like they gave up that right when they got pg with #2!
Help!
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