[kaynig]

I am going through my first "Family Crisis" and need some advice.

"R" has been asking me a lot "Are you my Mommy?" I keep reassuring her and telling her "yes!". Well, every time she asks me it totally breaks my heart. She is only 2 and I had been wondering where this was coming from.

Well the other day when I picked her up from child care. The kids were on the playground. I gave her a hug and started chatting with one of the teachers. "R" ran off to play a little and then ran back up to me and asked me again.

After I told her, “Yes, Honey, I am your Mommy.” she said “OK” and ran off again. The teacher was watching and heard all of this. I told her that "R" had been asking me that same question a lot lately. Then told me that it was probably all coming from little boy “X”. He had been teasing her and telling her that she and "W" (bio son) could not be brother and sister because they don’t look a like. She said she had told the boy that "Yes, "W" and "R" are brother and sister." but I don't think it went any further than that.

I did not know how to react so I let it go, FOR THEN. Well, it is really bothering me. I knew this kind of stuff would come up, but for heavens sakes, she is only 2. How do I explain all of this to a 2 year old?

So, yesterday I called the Director of the child care, she was very sympathetic and agreeable. I suggested they talk to the little boy and let him know it is hurting "R" feelings. I also suggested they read some books to the children about all the different kinds of families there are and maybe an adoption book.

Right now, I find myself overcompensating to reassure her that I love her and she IS my daughter. And, Lord, help "W" if I find out he is contributing to any of this.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to handle all this?
How can I help "W" understand as he also goes to this school?
And most of all, how I can help "R" through this?