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IMO dont go this alone. Find a reputable attorney or agency. Ask them to do an identified adoption for you. they will keep the birthmom in line as far as expenses and also make you not feel guilty for leaving her hanging or for feeling like you are 'buying' a baby. Most of the time the expenses that i have seen are in regard to how their live has changed by being pregnant such as medical expense and maybe being off of work for the pre-delivery and 6 weeks after. If they were not working before the money was coming from somewhere. definatley get a budget from her, you will find that her needs are less than what you think. Our birthmom had a really cheap rent, i would have paid 3 times that much. good luck. It can work out but it sounds like you need an athoratative third party involved.
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