I'm the same way you are Mystik, always trying to consider the child AND bio parents feelings in this crazy process, almost to a fault I must admit, and it can at times make situations sticky.
We transport to all of our kiddos appts and visitations so we get quite a bit of bio parent contact. We speak to them directly AND I write little update notes and send pictures of their kids as long as it's case appropriate. All of our previous case workers have supported and even encouraged that. Don't feel bad about it as long as your case workers have given the go ahead with that sort of contact, and for goodness sakes alive don't stop it just because of a few (very) irritating questions, even if they are driving you crazy. Having that level of compassion towards someone in such an awkward situation is a GIFT. Not all foster parents can deal with bios like that, it's hard, I know! But the extra tidbits gained from the additional communication could be invaluable to the case. In the end I definately think it helps everyone more than it can hurt so if you can, keep doin what you're doin and document and report your contact as needed.
That said, I completely agree with Kat.
I use the, "I don't know, do you want to ask the CW or should I" line A LOT. Some bios probably think I'm a moron because every other sentence of mine is that but it's useful when I really don't know the answer or simply don't feel comfortable answering. They usually catch on quickly and start going straight to the CW instead of me that way anyway
