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Old 05-21-2008, 12:13 PM
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Originally Posted by Mystik
I'm really in need of some help with this situation. I opened the doors of "letter writing" communication with *A's* bio mom shortly after the new year. I thought it would be nice to be able to let her know how *A's* doing, her favorite things, newest achievements, etc. and she seemed to appreciate it. However since then she seems to write me at least once a month to tell me all her concerns & to ask me for things.

How are letters going back & forth? At visits? I would still stick a short note in the diaper bag: "A started walking this week. She loves green peas" and other things that are short & sweet. Maybe stick a picture in the bag. At the end I would mention that any concerns she has about A's doctor appointments or development should go to the cw. After that, anytime she says "Why isn't A ____?" just respond, "Please address any concerns about why A isn't ____ with the caseworker. Thanks".

That way Mom will still get updates but she won't be able to drag you into any conflicts. I definately wouldn't recommend giving out a phone number. I did that ONCE and I would never do it again. It was a disaster.
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