Love the way the state lies to parents-so helpful for the kids. And the threats are really fun-pick up your dangerous kid, or get charged with abandonment, pick him up, and if something happens to the other kids, get charged with child endangerment, nice-huh?
Will adoption subsidy pick up residential treatment? Will the Psych placement recommend his need for this or is your son convincing them it's all you? (amazing how well they can do this, sometimes)
Are there any adoption support groups in your area? Great place to find info about what really can and can't be done.
There is an online support group at
Welcome to Attachment & Trauma Network* - ATN where there are many parents-some I know from Tx-that may have ideas about how you can get what you need. I'm not from Tx, but have dealt with the behaviors you describe and was told the same lies.
I found that while I couldn't disolve my adoption, I could get long term residential care for my son.