[CaddoRose]

Here's the story:my 11 yr old called her best friend's cell phone and left a voice mail which the Dad got instead. The message was about how my daughter was uncomfortable about the friend's Mom always talking about body fat and watching what foods you eat, etc when my daughter is at their house. She goes on to say that the Mom is a pain in the neck.

Very bad form and I can't believe she would do that. She is usally the best kid and this is completely unlike her. I think she was having a bad day.

The friend's Mom calls our house and leaves an equally rude message on our answering machine explaining that if my daughter has a problem with conversations about body fat that maybe she has a body imagine problem
and we should do something about it. Her conversations are for her kids because they have various medical issues in their family and she doesn't wnat her kids to get fat. Then she goes on to say that my daughter's comments were just rude and that she could raise her kids the way she wants to and we can rasie ours the way we want to. She further initmated that we must be in approval of the message our daughter left on the phone.

We have known this family for about 7 yrs and our kids spend lots of time together. I think my daughter should apologize for her message.

I'm really at a loss about the reaction of the other Mom. It was as though she had never had a kid complain about anything and the fact that she was so upset about what an 11 yr old said. I can't believe she didn't call and speak to one of us about our daughter's behavior and instead choose to stoop to the level of the 11 yr old. How would you handle this?