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When A1 was 3 1/2yrs old we had some children moved from our foster home suddenly and I know she grieved when they left. She hadn't been their caretaker but she was their foster sibling, her attachment and love for them was more than DNA... just like her love for us has nothing to do with DNA.
She grieved real emotions. I was glad she could have emotions of such a deep nature (some kids can't after abuse).
Those prior foster siblings re-entered our life when A1 was about to turn 4yrs (they were RU'd with their mother) it was the best relationship and situation. She now has her "sisters" back in her life and the girls mother and I have a very good relationship. I even let A1 stay overnight with them.
I'd suggest contacting the child's mother (since it sounds like you know how to contact them) and meet with her. If she's open to contact then it might be good for both of them. She might choose to not want any contact and then your concern becomes a moot point.
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With the same amazing man for 15yrs 
Mom to a wild and crazy bunch: 
 Adopted - A1 - 9 yrs (adopted Oct 2005)
Adopted - A2 - 5yrs (adopted Dec 2006)
 Biological - T - 1 yr (born 7-29-08)
:Exchange student - K - 17yrs
Former foster child (lives with me during the week) - M - 13yrs (foster child from age 6yrs to 11yrs)
Total of 104 foster children and 4 foreign exchange students at last count. 
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