[snc2007]

My fd is about to be 4yo. She has been with us since January. We are hoping to finalize the adoption by the end of the year. We were slow with the bonding in the beginning but things are great now. She is still talking about her previous fm and f brother on a daily basis. Whenever she gets upset about anything (not getting her way mostly) she cries for him and it is so sad I cry. I know she is manipulating me a little but I can also tell when her tears are sincere and it breaks my heart. I believe she was in the mother role with him and I know that they slept together and she fed and changed him. (This is part of the reason she was moved from previous foster home to us.) Her cw suggested trying to arrange a meeting with f brother, who has since been ru'd. He is just 2 yo and I'm not even sure his mother would agree to it.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.