birdeez4
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I guess the point of this post is to give another point of view from 'outside the triad'. My wish would be that those 'inside the triad' could admit that there is a ripple effect and, just as they expect our support, be willing to give it in return. We're all in this together, or we should be, IMHO. My mother recently admitted that, looking back, she was 'distracted', although from my perspective, it was far more than that, even if she doesn't want to admit it. And it still seems that everywhere I look for support, what I am told is that "I need to be supportive of my mother and my sister and understand what THEY have gone through" as though none of it affects me at all.
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At one point in my reunion I came to the conclusion that I was really into myself and my issues.. and my pain and or dogma..
And that because things were not looked at or resolved I was looking in and not out.. and not seeing those around me..
It’s a scary thing to see..
I know an adoptee interviewed birthmoms and wrote The Girls that Went Away.. I am thinking there should be a book.. about those in close relationships with adoption/relinquishment..
Jackie