We live in Montana. I went through a very messy divorce 3 years ago. My ex was emotionally abusive and controlling. (To give you an idea of things please visit
Escaping the Abuse , this is a website I made for my technical writing class) He can only have supervised visitation. It has been two years since he has seen the children. The only two agencies in my area that supervise visitation have denied my ex use of their facilities due to his "aggressive behavior" towards the staff. He does pay child support. He is over 7000.00 behind, but it is being deducted from his paycheck. Last month he moved to Alaska. He is requesting phone visitation. My older two children do not want anything to do with him (they are 12 and 11). My 8 year old and my 6 year old twins NEVER talk about him or ask about him. We have discussed my husband adopting them, and the kids are all thrilled by the idea. I know my ex-husband will not willingly give up his parental rights. I feel like my kids are in limbo. I have a post office box address for my ex, but no physical address. Does anyone think we have any chance of getting this done? I have an pro-bono attorney that helped me through my divorce and ongoing legal filings by my ex, but her firm does not handle adoptions. She thinks it is a good idea, but cannot give me any advice. I want my kids to feel safe and secure. At Easter, my ex sent the kids a box of candy. My 12 year old got very quiet and sat down. I asked him what was wrong (I thought maybe he missed his father or something) He asked me how he found us. Does anyone have any words of wisdom? I really appreciate anyone who has read this far. If you have any questions, please ask away.
Anita in the beautiful mountains of Western Montana