[shelly b]

I had started a thread earlier about my daughter leaving me pee in a cup on the bathtub. I stated that I may have to return the gift. I in no way ment that I would pee in a cup and leave it for her. First of all there is no way I would even consider that and secondly I wouldn't feel that, that is a way to handle this. I was meaning I would literally return her gift by giving it back to her to deal with. I'm sorry I didn't make myself clear. The therapist did say ( the next day at her apt.) that having her clean up the mess was a good idea. I realize that she does have such a history of abuse and I feel so bad for her. I love her dearly. She is such a gifted young lady. She had her piano and flute recital today and she did a fantastic job!! I just want for her to find peace and happiness. She has a long way to go. She will be 15 this month and she is oppositional and defiant and has ADHD and bi-polar. I just pray that she will someday realize what a blessing she is and know how much her father and I love and care for her. Actually she has a large extended family that love and care for her too with many that keep us in their prayers. Sorry about the mix-up. I appreciate all of you and your input. I don't know what I would do sometimes if I didn't know that there were others out there going through many of the same things I am and that are willing to listen and help out where they can. Thanks so very much.