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but the state the emom is in is the one that the agency will typically go by (and then you would have to finalize there) For us personally, we were really not open to any expenses that were additional to our agency fees. We knew that paying expenses would open the door to losing money. For us that could have impacted our ability to make a new match, so we weren't going to take that risk. There was one situation where we were asked to match with an emom very close to her due date, and the only expenses she was requesting were $500 for maternity clothes because she had no clothes or bras that fit. She was 2 weeks from her due date and to us, that made no sense. Was she really going to go spend $500 on maternity clothes to wear for the next month or so? We offered to send her gift cards to her local maternity shops and she declined matching with us. That sort of sealed the deal for us with expenses. Ty's bmom was given some post partum expenses (from what we have heard they were minimal, we don't know the exact numbers) but they were paid out of the $ that we paid the matching agency.