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The bio mom of our lil *A* said that if she for some reason failed RU then both maternal and paternal grandparents were willing to step up to get *A*. This concerned me big time as *A* has been with us for just about 14 months now and it will be 18 months most likely by the time they review this all again in court. I have spoken to a few different CW's asking how that will play a part in our being able to adopt *A* should it go to TPR and grandparents step up. They have all basically said if family members didn't step up in the beginning and let it carry on this long without ever getting involved then they didn't stand a chance because the judge would be looking at "best interest" and the time with us would outweigh the zero interaction blood relatives. Of course they would still be allowed to attempt it, and even have homestudies done, because they have every right to do those things and CPS can review them, but when the recommendation goes to court and the judge is looking at the case the relatives stand little chance by not having gotten involved from square one, which they had every opportunity to do. Heck they were all there in the hospital with bio mom when *A* was born & CPS apprehended, so no one can even claim that they "didn't know".
You're case *may* go a bit differently however... because 10 visits even if it were stretched over 2+ years still shows that this particular relative was expressing interest. It's such a frustrating situation and I can completely empathize with what you are going through. I hope the judge in your case really takes into consideration "best interest" as well and that this little one will be able to stay with you being the only stable home she's ever known.
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