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I was trying to be objective to "iwanttobeamom" and give her every possible scenario without putting my personal feelings into it, but I actually added then deleted a comment about how the divorce option will not work for us personally. For one reason - I'm honest to a fault and I've consciously waited to find the right man to marry, even though all my friends were getting married and having babies and I knew I should hurry because I knew I couldn't get pregnant but I felt very strongly about finding true love first, then becoming parents. I never wanted to raise a child unless I had my soulmate with me and I didn't care how long it took to find him because my inner voice kept telling me that he's out there for me. I was right and although I've lived all over the country, I came home and married a guy who I dated in high school and we always had a connection.
Sorry if it's TMI and I'm going off on a tangent, but my point to "iwanttobeamom" is that if you pick up the pieces after the one or two-day crying sessions and get a strong, positive attitude, it can happen.
I know in my heart that my husband & I would have such a emotionally healthy and happy family and call me idealistic but I have faith and what goes around comes around so I don't feel I need to take the divorce route because to me, it's not the most ethical way and I'd always be scared that karma would bite me in the butt and make my baby pop out with three heads or something. But she sounded so desparate and she mentioned that her marriage was being destroyed by this so I reacted to that and that was the last resort option and you never know, maybe it would work for them and they'd end up happy.
I'm extremely frustrated at this whole process because the best judge is not on paper, it's reality and if the homestudy people could take a video of our life or follow us around for a few days, we'd pass with flying colors.
Abby
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