[Larue]

We brought our daughter home at 14 months, and went through some attachment struggles, including sleep issues. They didn’t start until after a honeymoon period and then lasted for several months. In our case co-sleeping and playing soft music did the trick. After about three months we transitioned her into a Pack n Play next to our bed. And then into her crib in her room, with me sleeping on a mattress next to her. And then I slowly moved the mattress out of her room. This “process” took about six months.

Here is my take on it. As far as attachment goes. You only get one shot at it. We were waiting for these kiddos, they were not waiting for us. We need to earn their trust. No matter it takes. Follow those Mama instincts. If you feel that your baby needs to be rocked to sleep. Then rock her. Until your arms are numb. OK...this is me talking. Please do NOT ever let her cry it out. And I don’t care if I get stoned for saying it.

I fought so hard for my daughter. The mere thought of letting her wake in confusion and fear while she is reaching out for comfort, and I'm not there for her. Well let me just say. There is no freaking way that will ever happen. When Sabrina wakes in the night crying, I hit the ground running. And I will when she is sweet 16. A college student. When she is in her 20s, 30s, 40s. Until I hit those pearly gates. That is afterall what I signed up for. And I love it!

Best wishes. Trust me, it all gets better with time!!!