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I will gladly share my experiences with you and hope they may offer some help to you. We had two supervisorys where we pretty much knew immediately that the placement would not work and let the caseworkers know right away. It was a hard decision but better than a failed placement.
Just as we were ready to give up hope after reaching our third year in this process we were surprised to get a call about a 7 year old child. We had the supervisory but still had some questions. The caseworker encouraged us to take our time. We asked for the psychologist's report. I took that along with the Part B history to a trained professional to explain what I was actually reading and what he thought might be serious issues. The foster parents were lovely and answered all our questions. All together it took a few weeks before we committed to meet the child.
Our first meeting took place in a Friendly's Ice Cream Restaurant with the child, the caseworker and my husband and myself. Although we were all nervous it turned out really well. The second visit was in our home for four hours with the child and the caseworker. The third was an all day visit in our home with just the child. However, in all visits the caseworker has transported the child home to get an idea from his perspective how things are going. This weekend we are having our first overnight visit. Things are progressing wonderfully!! However, I must admit bedtime was a little tough. It was hard to get him to fall asleep...but I'm sure that's the case most times on the first sleep over.
My impression has been that the caseworkers would rather you say no, then to say yes only to change your mind. Take your time and speak to everyone you think can offer insight. I hope things turn out as great for you as they have for us!!
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