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Mooelee,
If my bmom did not know who my father was, no, it wouldn't have changed how I felt about her at all.
I'd appreciate her just saying she didn't know or remember his name but to with hold that information when she obviously knew who he was is plain wrong.
I explained, very gently to her, how very important it was for me to know but she still ignored me about it.
She wanted no feelings discussed...period. Sorry but I'm a human being and needed answers and she was the only one to give them.
The original poster here said her bmom will not tell her who her father is, how about being honest if she just doesn't know?
I do understand how upsetting it is for bmom's to relive all this but a human being was the product and we can't just be expected to not ask anything, my bmom knows her parents, grandparents, where they came from, we don't in many cases. Everybody should be considerate of everyone else but when it comes down to only one person having an answer, they should tell.
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