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I am so sorry. I hope he gets his addiction under control, alcohol is such a hard one cause it's so much easier to get than some other drugs and it's more seen as a part of adult culture. I am sorry you are having to deal with so much right now. That's the one thing about parenting, to be good at it means to share your heart, and if you share your heart it makes you vulnerable to having it stepped on as your children stuggle to find thier own way. Remember normal teens who have had good lives push away from thier parents and sometimes get into trouble trying to figure out who they are and trying to become adults it's much much harder for kids who have been through what your kids have in the early parts of thier lives. You did not cause that trauma in thier lives, but you are the one stuck dealing with the consequences and the fall out. You are the only safe place for them to vent thier anger. You are the only solid thing in thier lives that they can push against as they try to push away from childhood and into adulthood. You are a good dad, and the boys know it, they just don't want a dad at this moment, they think are adults and they think they know it all, they will get over that and relize what you gave them and that you can be an adult an still have a relationship with a parent.
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