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Good question. From my experience and research, I could see a couple of ways this thought could creep into one's mind. First, the point you raised about "why not a US adoption." People who have never been outside the US often don't realize how much more poor the poor in other countries are - how much more difficult foreign orphans' lives may be if they are not adopted. Second, the view of UNICEF and others that taking kids from their home country strips them of their heritage and forces them to grow up a minority in a country where they will never fit in. This is something that entered my thoughts a couple times. Would I have the ability and commitment to ensure my kids won't lose their heritage and won't feel like they don't belong here? Not that I agree with UNICEF, but I could see where some folks might second-guess themselves on that.

Originally Posted by annaguat

OK probably dumb question but why would people ever feel guilty for adopting a child from a different country? I guess it has something to do with people asking why you did not adopt a child in the US?

Where I am coming from - Both DH and I are import and think the US is great so felt foreign adoption was a wonderful way for another human being to enjoy living in this wonderful country.

Maybe we had less people ask us why we adopted foreign since both DH and I are foreign born. I am not sure.

Anna