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Originally Posted by ljsdo2007

Wow...this thread is still going strong?

How many times are we going to say the same thing over and over?

How is it anyone's business what individual families choose to do for their families?

As I said several pages ago, we have decided not to adopt AA or AA/anything else. We made that decision based on where we live and the fact that there will not be the kind of ethnic diversity and AA role models that we want for our child. We have really high standards in that area--we would want a child with AA in them to grow up feeling rooted in the AA community, and to us, that means living in an area with a lot of diversity. I don't want to have to be calling around looking for MLK celebrations to bring my kid to. I want to be able to walk around the block and see all colors of people if I am going to have an AA child.

So why are we okay with full hispanic? Because our part of the world has lots of hispanic people. We have lots of hispanic friends who live nearby, whereas our AA friends are farther away. Our child will have hispanic teachers and coaches and neighbors and friends. An AA or AA/something else child growing up in this part of the world would not have that, and we think that does not allow this child the best possible environment in which to grow up, so they feel rooted in the AA community.

People asked why we don't move. That's not an option for us at this time. Our jobs and lives are here.

I know this post will fall on deaf ears and people will continue to throw stones and think we are wrong for choosing only certain races, and that's okay. All that matters to us is our family and the well-being of any child we adopt.

It's just a discussion. I know we PM'd some though and I had given you some great books and articles to read over. Did you read any of those? For me they were a huge part of why we were comfortable adopting an AA baby. Our city registers as .09% black in the census. We have other diversity (hispanic and asian) and other major towns with in an hour do have higher AA populations. Anyway...I hope you read the information and gave it some thought.