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We live in WA, DS was born in OR, and we completed the adoption in WA. Basically we were told we had the choice to adopt in WA or OR. So basically a similar situation to the folks in CA adopting in WA. Only choosing the state the child was born in. The legally binding OA agreement is most definitely true. There are parts of it that I don't like (i.e. I don't want DS wondering if we visit because we want to or we have to....but I think our attitudes will be able to tell him that). The legally binding OA can be a benefit to both parties. Our agreement outlined the minimum number of visits. It does assure a potential bmom that she will get at least that number of visits (could be more if both parties want). It also assures the potential aparents of their limits on visits too...Many OA agreements are verbal. Over time (months or years), aparents and bparents memory of what was promised may differ. It can prevent a lot of misunderstandings.
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