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Originally Posted by Kristin7
I just don't understand...since they have just petitioned the court to remove the baby's visit with mom alone....due the goal change and no more bonding needed, why are they going to allow visits with dad and baby?
TPR is in six weeks. if it goes through.....then visits stop. why start them now?
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i know...sometimes the things they do are confusing.
anyway, my fs's tpr is in 2 1/2 weeks. mom got no RU services...and never had a visit in the last 6 months (baby is 6 months)...mostly bc she was incarcerated. but she has been out for nearly 2 months, and JUST LAST WEEK, they approved visitation for her. based on history, it is HIGHLY likely tpr will go thorugh. so...i asked what is the point? but sw said, until that tpr is granted, she has a legal right to see the baby. it ALSO looks better for termination if at the tpr it does not look like anyone held back on assisting the parents. otherwise, there may be a reason for an appeal to be filed..which draws everything out alot longer. trust me...i went through appeals once...it took FOREVER! i know it is hard to think of sending the children you view as "your own" to a man that, while the father, is certainly a stranger, but it really is better for the case in the long run. i'm not loving the idea of my baby going next week either. BUT, i calm myself knowing that the visit is monitored...and it will most likely be her only one.
i don't see much use in you standing up for there being no visits, bc i can't imagine that they would deny visitation based on you not wanting them to happen.....however, there is also no harm in expressing your fears to your case worker. someone also needs to prepare your child. maybe they would be willing to give you a picture of him in advance so you or the cw could talk to your child about the visit before hand. it may help your 2 year old adjust to a difficult situation.
i'm sorry. i know it is difficult.
