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Old 05-16-2008, 09:40 AM
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I use the trust as it relates to age issue with my dd who is 7...and it works wonders!....

I also don't give her warnings...I wake her up, set out her breakfast and tell her the timer's been set. She knows when 30 min is up, food is removed and she is to get dressed, at 15 min whatever state of undress she is in, she gets her hair done and is sent out the door. (she walks to school 2 blocks)

But she loses trust points which lowers her "responsibility age" and she HATES that...I wouldn't let a 2 yr old play with messy paints, or playdough....so if she acts like a 2 yr old then I have to treat her like one....

It's been the MOST EFFECTIVE THING I've ever done for her.

Oh and, losing points is making my job harder in any way than it should be...and you lose 3-5 points (cotton balls in a jar), but as you gain them back, you only gain them back one at a time...much harder to earn trust back once it's been lost....
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