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"I understand how painful it must be for his firstparents...but regardless of how it came to be, he is now your son and you shouldn't have to listen to things such as that.
I would certainly tell them that converstions like that are unacceptable and that in order for your OA to be a success," love2boys said
It depends on the adoptive parent. I do listen to our son's parent's discuss regrets and grief. I can handle that and feel all children are "worthy" of being grieved over. It mattered plenty to me as an adoptee if my parent's grieved and had regrets or if they just skipped away without a second thought. When our son was older, his parent's did discuss this grief with him (he was 15) and it affirmed to him that it was not a
flip decision. JMO
Goastros, I think you want only the best for your son and will do just fine;~))
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