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Dear Ceparana,
Strangely enough my daughter is 12 and I was beginning to fear that if I didn't tell her before her true teen years she might not get the benefit of something that could help her as she tries to deal with sexual issues that will surely come up for her when she begins dating.
Anyway, that's what I told myself. So I guess I just plowed ahead in a way. I asked if could speak with her for a minute. Then I held her hand, told her that I loved her but that something sad had happened to me once and that I wanted her to know because I always wanted the communication to be open and honest between us. I told her that once I gave two children up for adoption, that somewhere out there she has a brother and sister. Then I waited....... She was surprised and had lots of questions which I answered to the best of my ability in a way I thought a little 12 year old girl could grasp.
She did cry and I asked her why and she said she was crying for me. Something that until a few days ago I was not able to do for myself and feel terribly ashamed of now that I can.
Her questions continue once in a while and I answer them how I can.
I hope this helps. It is a frightening thing risking your children's "picture" of you (for lack of a better word).
Much peace to you,
Janey
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