Hey Abby,
Im in the exact same situtation as you it seems.... somthing stupid and false on my husbands record that he was never convicted of has completly destroyed our chances of adoptiong. I was told no country would accept a domestic arrest. We were officially denied yesterday and I am completly devestated. There were no charges, just the arrest... and the report even says, there was no crime, no injury, no evidnce, but that we both claimed we fought.(a lie) So stupid.... but I cant have children, and now we cant adopt... I just want to die.
And I cant imagine a worse life sentance for someone dying to be a mother and have a family. But I know this will completly destroy our marraige as we both really wanted a family... so its going to be a double loss. I am just completly devestated and have been crying since yesterday morning. The sad thing is I KNOW we would pass a homestudy becuase we get along so well together and have such a great relationship if it wernt for the arrest. Its just so ironic... I was adopted myself and couldnt wait to raise a child, but now I feel like I've been predestined to live a miserable lonly life. The harder I hope and pray for somthing, the worse it gets screwed up, and farther away from being possible. I wish you luck and if you find and agency that is flexable please let me know, becuase right now I have no more hope....