[vegaschristina]

I think your 11 year-old has a point...why does she want them to visit for 3 weeks, but can't be bothered to write the girls?

I would be extremely leery of sending my children, at only 7 and 11, to spend 3 weeks with someone who is a virtual stranger to them.

I would offer as a compromise, that you can ALL come for a visit, and you will stay in a motel with the girls, but they can spend as much time with you and the girls as they want or they can come visit you at your house.

Until the girls have an established relationship with their birth mom, I would not allow them unmonitored access. Especially if there is a history of abuse and blaming the child for the abuse and other issues.

Best of luck in whatever you decide to do and please keep us updated.