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Old 05-15-2008, 06:54 AM
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Originally Posted by Leigh131313

Personally, I would not want someone rolling cigarettes infront of my child either.....but we're pretty anti-smoking in general (sorry, but yes I totally discriminate lol)

This is a great point and it's one that would be true for our family as well. Whether or not you were planning to smoke in another room, I wouldn't want you rolling a cigarette, no matter the contents, in front of my children. While I can't shield them from everything, I'm really hoping to avoid certain subjects of discussion until they are of an appropriate age. Right now, at 2.5, my older son would have said, "Hey, whassat?" And I would have had to say, "Something yucky." And then my 2.5 year old would have assumed, by association, that YOU were yucky since you were DOING something yucky. If my 2.5 was your birth child, would you want him to think that you were yucky? Probably not.

Anyway, you really need to discuss this with them. Phone or e-mail an apology and do not act in a confrontational manner. Whether or not you were in your own home, doing what you always do, is not the point.

Best of luck with this one.
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