[KarenInCa]

Ive thought about this, and perhaps my answer might be different if I didn't already have an adult son, and our first daughter already home from China. At this time in my life, I wouldn't go with the agency on the premis that they could speed us up.
But, I also do not think that I would blame or point a finger at the person that would. Perhaps that child NEEDS to be in that family earlier. Who am I to say?
I'm a strong believer in destiny. The moment my daughter and I locked eyes, that was it. She was the daughter I had known forever, we were like souls that had finally met up again.
Now, as we wait for her sister, she keeps talking about a specific child now -her sister- who is probably not born yet. And she talks about her sister as if she were already with us.
Cadence already has a "sister pact" with an angel we call Melody, and that bond was formed long before DH and I came into the picture, just as we had a child pact with our two daughters long before time as we know it. I truly believe this, so for me, someone moving ahead of me only leaves me more space to find my own child in the crowd. :-) Sometimes I don't feel we were united as much as re-united.