Thank you, Raven.
I often think about what you're saying: even if I just met my biological mother once, and then she provided medical history, other info. about bio-family, etc., I would still feel much comfort in knowing that she was doing well, had a family of her own, all of that.
Mommy24, I respectfully disagree with you. I think you were the first woman to love your son - but I just cannot make the correlation between giving birth + seeing the child "first" + relinquishment = "mom status." It doesn't add up for me, but that's
just me. I do appreciate your comment about not signing away your right to love your son, or to miss him and wish good things for him. As an adoptee, that's comforting to know! I'd like to think that my biological mother feels those same things for me.
And, as much as I know it ruffles feathers...to me,
at this point in my life, my biological mother was [is] simply a
vessel. NOT to discount her bringing me into the world - for that, clearly, I am thankful. Now, if I were to be in contact with her, I'd imagine I may feel differently about her. But I can't even imagine reunion, so I have no idea how my feelings about her/for her would develop.