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Nicole, I totally respect your right to call your birth mom by her first name, but as a birth mom I would like to chime in here just a bit.
I am not my son's parent, but I will always be his mom, not only mom, not the one who sat with him at night when he was sick, not the one to kiss his bo boo's, not the one to cheer him on at his first football game,you get the picture. However, I was his First mom to love him, I DID love him first, I was his first mom to take care of him before he ever made his grand entrance into this world, I was his first mom to read to him, to tell him how much he was loved, I was his first mom to ensure that his life outside of my body would be the best I could give him, even if that meant not with me, I was his first mom to make sure that he was born healthy by taking care of not only him but by taking care of me, you get the picture.
I was NOT just a vessel, an incubator if you will. I was his mom until I signed those rights to him over to his mom and dad, what I never signed over was my right to love him and care about him for the rest of my days. Thankfully he sees that, not sure I could live with myself if he didn't. Anyway, just a birth mom's perspective, I will not debate this with you, like I said, I totally respect your rights and desires to do whatever makes you comfortable.
Good luck to you!
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Michelle
"I have learned that people won't remember what you said to them, they won't remember what you did to them, but they will always remember how you made them feel"
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