[suzyq18]

I've been a lurker on this board forever and this is my first post.
I need some advice.

We have had FC in our home, mostly little babies that we know that family is on the way to take them, they have been with us for a variety of weeks and months. I am happy to have taken care of these children knowing that family is there for them.

Earlier this year, our agency asked us to take in a child a little older than our profile -- he is a toddler(we had only wanted nine months and younger). We were told that there was family working on their home study, etc and it would only be for a while.
Well, now we know that was a total misrepresentation of his situation. No family of his could come close to passing a home study, aunts, uncles themselves had lost their own children to FC .... and biodad is deceased. There is only his biomom, with an arrest record of close to 30 arrests for mostly drugs and other various felonies. Our FS is part of a sibling group not living with us. Biomom is now is in residential drug treatment program for at least three to six months. Her case plan is for drug treatment ... job security (LOL what kind of job is she going to get as a felon??? and parenting classes) Instead of jail time she gets probation and drug treatment (which of course our taxes are paying for) I am livid at our criminal justice system for letting someone like this walk the streets she has been a drug dealer/manufacture and user for at least a decade if not longer. She has skirted the system by moving around alot from state to state.

We found out that she was in jail, as there was a scheduled visit with the FS and his siblings. Bio mom did not show since she was in jail. We asked the CW what happens if she gets a long sentence, does TPR happen, what could happen... we just wanted to know. CW said that she would not know anything til the next court meeting. We left it at that.

Well... guess the CW thought we were being too involved and.....

Our SW from our agency called us and said that we are NOT allowed to know anything about the bio mom and to not try and figure out her whereabouts, etc etc and to emphasize the goal is to reunify the biomom and her kids.

We are really growing attached to this little one and have really bonded with him. If (big IF) there would be a TPR, we would love to adopt him.

SW wants to come for a visit and "talk" with us.

I am a little worried as she might want to remove him from our home. We are NOT doing anything to impede biomom.... we are just taking care of this child in the way he truly deserves.

Any suggestions as to how to handle this next visit?

I am almost ready to just tell her to give him back to his druggie mommy and let them deal with the consequences of that and fork over mega bucks to adopt.

I wanted to make a difference as a foster parent, instead we are being treated like we have done something wrong.