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We have the right to call them whatever makes us feel comfortable as long as there is respect(respect being defined by the adoptee). I really get upset when others in generally society or even within the triad have the audicty to attempt to "scold" us into calling them what makes them feel comfortable because of a situation that we were put into. If in fact we had good moms in out adoptions we have every right to say calling our bmoms, mom makes us uncomfortable.
I personally called my bmom her first name. Didnot feel comfortable using anything else. For no other reason execpt that I was not raised by her....I give her total credit for my genes, my birth , but not the mothering of my childhood. That is NOT a judgemnt in anyway, just a fact.
IMO..it shows respect for me for the birthmothers reading to understand that..I do beleive that most do.
Another point, when introducing a bmom asking them what to be called is respectful...ie..bmom, natural mom ect....
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