[katnap80]

I am a little at welcoming you to the thread, "MISSY", but have been following. I am a birth mom to a 30 yr old. We "found" each other in 2004. Letters and pictures were exchanged between us, I sent cards and emails. Telephone calls were filtered thru a SEARCH ANGEL. We have yet to meet. Mother's Day 2006, I received a beautiful card from my daughter.

Like all of us involved in search and reunion, I was totally OBSESSED. All I wanted was to look into the eyes of my darling baby girl once again. She was not ready to meet me.en out of the blue (February 2007) , through a third party, she expressed that "not everyone wanted to be found". To respect her wishes, I ceased all contact. Out of the blue, I received an electronic message from her on Mother's Day evening....

Just a little note to say you weren't forgotten today.

XO

I replied with a single line and left it at that. I guess what I am saying, is that everyone reacts and responds in their own way and time.

Fortunately, every birth mom in my "circle" has opened their hearts and arms to their children, but there are cases where the secret has yet to be revealed. As much as your Bmom has longed for the day, your note probably caught her off guard and she needs time to process. All I can suggest is be patient and when the time is right, she will respond. In the meantime, come here and vent, talk, bounce (whatever settles your nerves) cause at some point or another, we have all been there. Stay OPTIMISTIC!!

HUGS!

"K"