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Originally Posted by jennymac527
...I guess, because she is our first placement, I had a preconceived notion that she'd be, well, neglected - not overindulged!...
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I had this thought with my kids too...how wrong I was. Not that there was not some neglect - medical to an extent and educational - but she was a loving, overly protective mother in many ways. I think she felt some guilt over the effects on her kids of her drug use during pregnancy and did not encourage them to do anything for themselves. My foster son was 8 1/2 and she still actually tied his shoes. And from the huge struggles he had with being accountable for anything, I suspect she did a great deal more for him. And my little one was almost 3 and could not even put duplos together or remove her socks. Having to teach my kids to be more independent was the last thing i expected as a foster mom!