[mommy3]

Just wanted to support your adoption plans, as well. Sounds like you've gotten the beginnings of a plan going -- do keep working on this. Because I was naive (thankfully) when we first adopted, I didn't realize that some of our health issues, age (mine, plus I'm much older than my husband) and other issues might have ceased our chances for international and some independent adoption. Our agency is very open minded and works with "all sorts of families" (even us) and welcomed us with positive comments and support. Now, I realize, our unique situations might have made it difficult elsewhere, but not through our agency. I agree with "Never say never". I'd have been like you, it'd be hard to have not adopted if I had known my dh's issues were the reason. Marriage can be challenging enough without those pressures as well. Best of luck as you keep moving forward -- feel free to pm me if I can help. susan