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Originally Posted by lovemy2boys
Heavens no. For me, there are two separate components to this sad story...
The first is the pain the adoptive family feels because their son will never know his precious little sister...That is a tragedy.
The second is the pain everyone feels because of the sick and disturbed thing this mad did.
To me, although intertwined, the fact that he was a birthfather doesn't color my views of birthparents.
However, I understand where this family and those close to them (such as the OP ) is coming from from their own personal aspect - that this child could have had a good life as opposed to having it cut short.
Am I making any sense?
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I generally agree with you, but I want to make the point that he WASN'T a birthfather. He was her father. He was a father who was also a monster and killed his girlfriend and his children. Sadly, stories like these - of parents (through birth OR adoption) who abuse or neglect or even kill their children - are all too common. But this has nothing to do with "birthparents" or even adoption per se - except that in this particular case it's a terrible shame that the system didn't realize what kind of a father he was and remove the child from his custody.
Still, it's a terrible, sad, and shocking case, and I totally understand how OP's friends much be devastated. My heart goes out to them.