[browneyes0707]

My ex ran scared 16 years ago when he learned I was pregnant. I think it always "haunted" him so to speak, but he shut down everytime I tried to talk to him about the daughter we placed. I knew he would eventually come to deal with it, and I was right. 9 years ago he made it known to me that he wanted to be found if I was ever contacted. 4 years ago he expressed interest to search and asked me for whatever info I had. 2 years ago I found more info and pics, and shared them with him, and that pushed him to make contact.

Was he a jerk then, yeah. But we all grow up. I am still hurt by some of the things he did, but I can't hold a 35 year old man accountable for his 18 year old actions forever. He's not the same person. Hopefully your daughter's mom will feel the same. But it doesn't hurt to put yourself out there, in case there is an interest.

As far as what a 15 year old would want from her birthfather, I know little about what happened after my ex contacted DD, but from what I was told, she isn't ready for a relationship, but is happy to know that he thinks of her and loves her. I think that is enough, you know?

Good luck! Keep us posted.