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Xdad,
First let me say that we all make mistakes. Some of them can have very devastating effects, but no one is perfect. I feel like I can relate very closely to what you are going through. I have 4 children... all of them except for one share the same father. My husband and I were not married when she was conceived and we were not together either. She was conceived when I was young and having a lot of personal issues in my life (which brings down a person's self-esteem). The father was someone that I had a very casual relationship with. While he knew I was pregnant... he also knew that shortly after we were together I became involved with someone and so there was no guarantee that he was the father. Furthermore, he had zero interest in being a father. I knew our relationship was casual and certainly didn't want to pressure him into being a father. Well as my daughter got to be about 15... it became extremely important to her to know who her father was and try to reach out to him (my husband has been her father and she still feels that way). I contacted the two men and we had dna testing done. It turns out that her father had been recently divorced, was in a committed relationship with a woman who has a teenage boy, had no children of his own and had a vasectomy years ago as he believed he would never want children. He has been excited to know our daughter. Things go up and down in their relationship, but they are both trying. I would say that anyone can be forgiven. I have no idea what your daughter knows of you or how she feels about you and any possibility of a relationship with you. However, it is definitely worth the risk. Best of luck to you.
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